Thursday, April 21, 2011

Time to Rest

After creating the universe, all the stars, each grain of sand, the humpback whale and the soft-shell crab, even God tired and took a day off.
There's no argument that we humans, who at our best can only create opportunities and at our worst create havoc, need time to rest.

--Maya Angelou, 
Even the Stars Look Lonesome
People--women in particular--are sometimes pretty bad about giving themselves the breaks they need. We get caught up in all the things going on in our lives, all the responsibilities and to-do lists, and we start to think those things are more important than they are.
"I believe that should is one of the most damaging words in our language. Every time we use should, we are, in effect, saying "wrong." Either we are wrong or we were wrong or we are going to be wrong. I don't think we need more wrongs in our life."  
--Louise Hay, You Can Heal Your Life
I don't think we do, either; most of us already have plenty. I think it's important to learn to focus less on what we think we should be doing, and more on what we need. It's like we're juggling, and each aspect of life is one of the balls; we think they're all made of glass that will shatter if we drop them, but really they're made of rubber (or at least some of them are). We think there are so many things we absolutely must do, but the number of things we really actually have to do is a lot smaller.

It's okay to have to let some things slide every now and then, to take a break when we need to, and to give ourselves a little time to rest. After all, God rested; and who are we to be above his method?


Lis said...

Also, if you don't take care of yourself first, you can't take good care of others.

Jen said...

I had not really thought about it till reading you here, some of the biggest jugglers are Mommies. Some mommies I know insist on having a hand on every aspect of everything each person in the fam is doing. "Should" is a mantra evolving into a catchall for quantifier this behavior set. I was reading here
that sadly inadequacy to be the all for everyone develops in to ED's.