tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628506312179219744.post8566581477780889182..comments2023-07-05T08:14:46.184-04:00Comments on On How to be Lovely: Lesson Learned, Emily: Love the CurlBeing Lovelyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03433302850370370657noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628506312179219744.post-87606462333549704572010-08-16T20:42:26.720-04:002010-08-16T20:42:26.720-04:00That's been my question too, Megan, ever since...That's been my question too, Megan, ever since I finally had that realization that straight hair isn't any more <i>legitimate</i> than curly hair. The fact that people--many people, in many different places throughout my life--felt that this was a normal question to ask is just proof to me of how deeply our culture believes that everyone should be aspiring to look the same--and how sad that is.mkgshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10032027328606342071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628506312179219744.post-55843812193219778442010-08-16T16:03:50.499-04:002010-08-16T16:03:50.499-04:00What I don't get about this is where these peo...What I don't get about this is where these people are getting the audacity to tell you that you should be straightening your hair. I mean, sometimes I curl my hair for a change, but it takes forever and I only do it once ever few months (less when my hair is long.) Why should you have to straighten your (adorable, by the way) curls just because they're curly? <br /><br />I know that's not really the point, and I love the bigger point too. Being happy with what we are is so important, especially about things that don't need to be changed. Improving yourself is lovely, but it should never be because someone thinks that the way you are is somehow inferior to the way they are.Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01470584535827952343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628506312179219744.post-62163398108797979312010-08-16T09:54:22.250-04:002010-08-16T09:54:22.250-04:00Loved this essay!Loved this essay!CORYNN AND JERhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11442071931201355993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628506312179219744.post-9828312742038862902010-08-13T15:03:01.171-04:002010-08-13T15:03:01.171-04:00I have the same story, Emily. My hair is intensely...I have the same story, Emily. My hair is intensely curly and has been a mess since I was a toddler. I've tried more products in the last fifteen years than I can even count--gel, mousse, paste, hair butter, hair food, chemical straighteners, all in dozens of different brands. I hated my hair for years, because it took so much time and effort to come up with a result I wasn't even happy with. <br /><br />A friend and I were talking recently about how for our whole lives, we've felt like (and been told that) we needed to straighten our hair in order to look better and fit in. It was only in college that I began to appreciate my hair. But even still, in the last few years since I've finally been able to afford a flat iron, it's been basically a permanent part of my morning routine--even if my hair is curly, I straighten my bangs. It's always bothered me that I feel better when my hair is straight. My hair is naturally curly, and I am all about embracing things that are natural. Why should I want it to be different than it is? <br /><br />This is still something I am struggling with, but I am determined to reach a point where I don't feel that straightening = upgrading. And in the meantime, here is what I wish I had known to say while I was growing up, when countless people asked me countless times, "Why don't you straighten your hair?" The answer is, "Because it's curly."mkgshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10032027328606342071noreply@blogger.com